One of my favorite moments I’ve experienced so far was the one when I found out that I got the job I still have now (but at a different level, of course). Although I’d had from the start a good feeling about this job, I was still very happy and surprised when my phone rang while I was at the hospital with my dad who immediately started crying. Then, a beautiful six months journey began through the entire company, that taught me a lot about respect, responsibility, teamwork, thinking outside the box and seeing the big picture, but most of all, about stepping out of my comfort zone.
Now, the recent political events happening in Romania, together with the bold statement made by my CEO and all this hate towards the big corporations, made me think about that time when I struggled to get a job I really wanted. For two months and a half I had interviews, tests, presentations and an essay to write, waiting after each task for positive answer. It was for sure a tense period which tested my nerves, but it also made me deal with new situations and that was fun and challenging and it was worth it because I now work in a great team, that inspires me every day.
So tonight I share with you the essay I wrote back then, whose title was decided by my CEO and role model. Enjoy reading. It made me relive those emotions once again and it feels good. I feel proud. I have some values and I stick to them because they make me who I am and I’m going to fight for those values, for me. No one forces me in doing something and I am very hard to persuade. I always have my own opinion and I over analyze all the facts.
I don’t feel I should say more…I’ll leave you with my essay.
Hope and kisses to you all!
“Everybody is doing it – a justification or a sign of weakness?”
Our entire life is based on the choices we make. Every single one of our moves is the answer to an inner question: “Is it right?” People make decisions about many things all the time. Quite often, the decision making process is fairly specific to the decision being made. Some choices are simple and seem straight forward, while others are complex and require a multi-step approach to making the decisions. As Napoleon Bonaparte would say “nothing is more difficult and therefore more precious than to be able to decide”.
Decision making is a critical aspect to feeling successful and happy in life. This cognitive process is at the root of all we do. Therefore, it is important to develop effective decision making skills and strategies and an examination of possible choices. The decision making process can be complicated and overwhelming.
Although the decision belongs to us, there are always other factors or biases that interfere in the process. I think that the most common and important barrier that stands in our way is the fear of failure, the fear of being wrong. On the other hand, my opinion regarding the matter is that a person who never made a mistake, never tried something new.
The notoriety of a behavior, of an idea is what makes us so curious and so eager to be involved. We use this as a justification for our acts, but in the end the act is not really ours because it’s not an original one, is just someone else’s idea we’re trying to follow.
When asked why we want to do something which is already being done by several, our first instinct is to say that this particular reason is what drawn our attention. We want to be part of it, of this big thing everybody is talking about. We know it works and it’s out there waiting to be grabbed and that’s enough for us.
I am not saying we should jump up to a conclusion without analyzing the pros and cons and make a decision before overthinking about the consequences. But so many times a person is encouraged in doing something if everybody else is doing it. This would imply in the individual’s subconscious the assertion that a certain type of behavior or activity is correct if others are similarly engaged in that same behavior. The thought that everybody is doing it leads to the idea that it must be right.
It stands to reason that when something positive results from a decision, people are more likely to decide in a similar way, given a similar situation. On the other hand, people tend to avoid repeating past mistakes.
In addition to past experiences, there are several biases that influence decision making. Cognitive biases are thinking patterns based on observations and generalizations that may lead to memory errors, inaccurate judgments and faulty logic.
“Everybody is doing it” is a good argument in doing the same thing, but not a logical one. It might not be wrong, but that does not mean we have to play along with the crowd. If we do something based on that particular fact without seeing it through and ignoring any bad sign, our judgment might get blurred and we might not succeed.
A good decision is made by having an objective perspective of all the details. In order to form our own opinion a better judgment is needed. And we can use that in our advantage by learning from other’s mistakes. We can observe and make it better. Or at least try.
Because what if the “right” thing made by so many people is not all there is? What if the “good” can become “better” and we are afraid to look for it, afraid we might cross a line or break a pattern? We may think we’ve got it all but there might be so much more for us to see and explore. All we need is a motivation, a problem that we want to solve, a “wrong” that we want to “right”, a puzzle.
The main reason why we should reflect upon our decisions is because when everybody else is doing it anyway, how can I make a difference? This is the hard part. One has to shine in order to be better than others. One has to stand out in this crowd. But are we willing to take the risk? It is important to convince others that we know better and we can do better. Otherwise, our idea might end before it even starts.
I also think that in order to succeed in a field which is already being explored, the secret is to take over something traditional with proven effects and try to make it contemporary and succeed in doing it.
A true passionate man of his work does not follow his predecessors. He creates something new, special, even inspirational for other people.
After a decision is made, people experience a variety of reactions. In addition, present decisions influence future decision making. Several of the outcomes that may result from a decision are regret or satisfaction, both of which influence upcoming decisions.
Of course, we can’t sit in the lid of progress because we will be blown to pieces. But following others is not getting us faster to the future, it just keeps us tied up in the present which will become soon the past. We have to continue a good idea by making it better all the time, we have to build on what we have discovered in the past. If everybody is doing something, that is not new anymore, it’s in the past. So we have to get ready for a new challenge and use our skills to improve and reinvent that “something”. We have to embrace the tools and experience from the past and move forward.
To conclude, we should not be blinded by the surroundings. People sometimes put glasses on the horses to limit their range of view and make them more collaborative. I say, let’s through away our own horse glasses and start looking around because there is always something hidden waiting to be discovered. So, with all the getting, get understanding (Steve Forbes) and let’s try to do something on our own and stop letting “everybody else” decide what is right for us or which way to go. We are not that weak. We must keep our heads and standards up and sometimes go against the stream because that’s when we know the true strength of it.